Your Y Chromosome Ain't Got Nothin On Me

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October 2010

69 posts

I know I’m preaching to the choir here, but I really want this to get through to the people who don’t know it, so maybe if we plaster all of this around the internet, some people will change and maybe some people will be inspired to help others change, and we can save some lives and make other lives better.

The Power of Being a Self-Made Man

MTPC: Transgender Suicide Prevention →

Here are some really important (and unfortunately timely) resources that I encourage everyone to look through. You never know when you or a friend or just someone reaching out could use this help.

September 2010

163 posts

More info on prosthetics

My buddy who I mentioned got a LolaJake a while back sent me this message: About the prosthetics though: I’ve heard not so great things about Like Real, such as that they have terrible customer service, sometimes send out the wrong products and then that their products have broken quickly. But I’m sure there are people who are happy with the product. And I definitely think Lola.Jake...

Anonymous asked: There's a ton of talk about testosterone on your blog. I'm a transman going through transition without hormones - I have my reasons - and I'm wondering what your standpoint on that is.

There are so many people who advocate testosterone, and that's fine, but I guess I kind of feel like I'm the only one out there that wants to transition sans hormones.

angriestboy asked: hey, so first off, i think you're fucking mint and completely inspirational. second, i have a question that i'm not sure if you've already answered or maybe you get it all the time but i was wondering why instead of typing "your/you're" you type "yr"? just curious!

Dysphoria and sex

Right, so I’ve really been debating talking about this at all on here, because even if I don’t make it personal, I will undoubtedly be giving some personal details and people who know me in real life (a large number of whom read this blog and I’m really happy they do) will know who and what I’m talking about, and I’m just not sure if that is fair.. But you know, I...

I was asked a question about Max, the FTM...

blackenedbutterfly asked: What is your opinion (if you have any) on the character Max on The L Word? I think they kind of butchered it, because, if I recall correctly, he doesn’t like his vagina, he doesn’t like having one, he doesn’t like anything about it - but then he gets into sexual relations with another man, and ends up pregnant. It confuses me because I wonder why he...

soccercutie-deactivated20100923 asked: not a question, but i can't believe how great your jawline looks! you look awesome!

Anonymous asked: You wrote on your recommended viewing list about Ma Vie En Rose that it was about a transgirl. What I got from it when I watched it was that the main character definitely has a transfeminine experience, but it's unclear whether Ludo will identify as a girl or as genderqueer. Ludo says at one point to the best friend character, "Je suis un[e] garçon-fille" (I am a girlboy),...

Anonymous asked: When you say downstairs growth is genetic, do you mean your growth will relate to the size of your cis male relatives or that some people start off larger to begin with? I'm pretty small now and do not know my birth relatives.

Anonymous asked: what have you heard about borderline personality disorder in relation to being trans?

Anonymous asked: You mention often that testosterone usually leads to a 100% passing rate for FTMs. Do you have an idea what the generally accepted percentage for MTFs is?

Anonymous asked: do you ever feel like certain people in the transgender community look down upon you because your parents paid for your surgery?

Anonymous asked: Did you have sexual attraction to men before T? I'm wondering because I'm pre-T/pre-op and I'm with a male. I love him very much, and I really doubt I could live without him. I hear a lot of things about trans men turning gay after T, but is that a psychological thing or because of the actual hormone?

Anonymous asked: I am a young, post-transition man who is exclusively "binary male identified". I'm not nor have I ever identified with the LGBT community. I am interested in what you do, and I am wondering if a resource for information about living life post-transition exists. If it doesn't (as I suspect), would you be interested in partnering (or something like that, I'm not on Tumblr so...

Anonymous asked: i'm looking for a good realistic looking prosthetic. do you (or any of your followers) know anything about likereal.de or lola jake?

“Freedom is a heavy load, a great and strange burden for the spirit to undertake....”

– Ursula Le Guin (via revolutionnow)

Anonymous asked: You might already have been asked this, but can you explain how you can use a medicine spoon for an STP device?

goldengray asked: I'm really curious about balding from T therapy. There's that old rule about looking to your mother's father to see how bald you'll be, but I think that only holds for people with one X chromosome. My dad and his father are both very, very bald and went bald relatively early in their lives, but my mother's father was less acutely bald and held onto his hair longer. Any...

superlesbianhero asked: Hey Sebastian,
First off, I love your blog. I didn't know much about trans before I joined Tumblr, and I thank you so much for educating me. I myself do not identify as trans, I am a lesbian. But the whole trans culture fascinates me. All of you trans guys have so much strength to make the decision to accept the fact that you are different and to face all the BS that society...

Anonymous asked: when you were in school did you ever have the issue of professors using the wrong name and pronoun with you after you informed them to use your male name and male pronouns?

xavieralexay-deactivated2010110 asked: Just read your 'relief' post and I'm so glad that you've reached this point. Trust me bro, it'll only get better and one day, you'll look back and not even remember what it felt like.

:D

Anonymous asked: how do you afford all of your expensive clothes?

“What are you - 17, 18?”

– Kid I met today when I shadowed another caseworker. I was fucking giddy that he guessed that old haha. The guy I was with said - don’t worry about it - I’m 24 and look 19.

Anonymous asked: Do you like being called Seb or Bastian? Which one do you prefer, and do you have any other nicknames?

Anonymous asked: Do you know how to get rid of unwanted nipple hair? I shave but it just comes back so soon.. plucking hurts though.. do you even have this problem??

A note on facial hair

So I have been pretty patient with testosterone, particularly with facial hair. But for some reason today I started getting really antsy about it. Like I just want to be scruffy yo. Gimme some stubble for Christmas, Jesus.

Internet! There are other gender variant people at...

I’m reblogging this to emphasize the importance of groups like this.

Tonight was just a trial run

jccarter1 replied to your post: Outfit for job interview: pic or it didn’t happen! I’ll try and get pictures tomorrow :)

Outfit for job interview:

Topman Black Skinny Smart Trousers JCrew White Slim Polo Brooks Brothers Black Wool Sweater Vest Black Suit Socks Black Italian Leather Dress Shoes Vogue Silver Thin-Framed Glasses +white hanes under shirt and a lucky pair of boxer briefs. &I look damn good.

canyoubesure answered your question: I have a question Is there a way to mention the blog without specifying the exact subject matter? Probably would be difficult… This was my thought. My mom said then it would just kind of come off as creepy haha.

I have a question

What are yr thoughts on outing yrself in a job interview? I have a pretty legit, serious job interview tomorrow for a position I’m actually really excited about. It involves working with adolescents and I think that xxboy could be a strong point to discuss in terms of my experience with teenagers and my ability to relate to and communicate with them. However, it requires me talking openly...

randomindividual-deactivated201 asked: I have a question about the words Transmasculine and Transfeminine. Does that mean that if you are one, then that means you are transitioning into a different gender expression, but not actually changing along the "rules" set by the Gender Binary? It's okay if you don't know, I'm just a bit curious.

“There are certain emotions in your body that not even your best friend can...”

– Björk letsdisappeartiltomorrow (via inshadowlight) I’m going to add “the right song” to this and then I completely agree.

Anonymous asked: when you watch old videos of yourself do you ever feel very disconnected from that person you see? do you ever think that that's not you? I feel that way when I watch my videos and it makes me a bit depressed that I inhabited this body for so long which I felt completely disconnected from. How do you get yourself to feel better about that "wasted time"?

The relief of living "post-transition"

First of all, what is post-transition? I think every trans person can and does define this differently. It can mean that you have physically met yr transition goals (i.e. been on testosterone long enough that the actual changes have already occurred; had yr desired surgeries; etc.). It can mean getting to a stage socially where you are fully out as male and acknowledged as such. It can mean that...