March 2011
26 posts
Anonymous asked: I'm very confused about how to go about changing my gender marker and legal name...
Anonymous asked: Does T have any bad changes or like can it have any dangers to it ? If that makes sense....
SIECUS thinks kids can handle learning about...
So one of the things I’m doing for my job is writing up some of the curriculum suggestions Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) make for comprehensive sexuality+ educaiton.
Today I was typing up their suggestions for what to teach 12-15 year olds about gender identity, and I felt totally affirmed by what they wrote, and thought you all might like to read...
szczupak asked: hey man, long time without knowing about you!
how is your transition going?
how is your transition going?
jonathonmoxon-deactivated201209 asked: You are amazing for taking the time to answer people's questions in such a detailed manner!
Anonymous asked: what people in your life were the most supportive of your transition? do you feel that there were people you couldn't have done it without? or would you have been fine transitioning without any support system?
i don't have the support of my parents and i'm trying to think who can i turn to or, will i be ok on my own?
i don't have the support of my parents and i'm trying to think who can i turn to or, will i be ok on my own?
Anonymous asked: My hamster is named Sebastian. You are both amazing, and super cute.
Anonymous asked: To gain access to hormones, do you need to see a therapist specifically trained to deal with trans people or can you get the necessary letter from any therapist?
busybeingacapsicle asked: Hey Sebastian, I'm just wondering how long after you started T you got chest surgery?
Here in South Australia it has to be one year after starting T, which I think is BS. I would rather be getting chest surgery first, then going on T.
I don't want to go through a whole year of binding when I really hate to bind.
Here in South Australia it has to be one year after starting T, which I think is BS. I would rather be getting chest surgery first, then going on T.
I don't want to go through a whole year of binding when I really hate to bind.
Anonymous asked: do you know any resources for stealth transmen? i transitioned a while ago but am trying to live stealth. i would also be itnerested in reading about stealth men's experiences if there is such a thing out there. are there any forums for stealth transmen or anything? i like tumblr, but its trans comm isn't fitting my needs.
Anonymous asked: arent you moving to boston??
Anonymous asked: hey, sebastian! i'm kolby. i'm 14 and came out to my family last week. things are going pretty well. the only problem is that i live in rural wisconsin, and i can't find a gender therapist anywhere near me. is there some kind of listing online that i could look at? thanks!!
Anonymous asked: i've previously identified as a lesbian. i have a HUGE crush on my friend who is ftm. he's amazing and sweet and smart and strong. i don't want him to think i think of him as feminine but i also want to tell him i've got a crazy crush on him.
canyoubesure asked: Hey Sebastian! Forgive me if you've addressed this previously. I'm working on building up the infrastructure of this social service agency I work for, and part of that is writing/editing the forms that we have people fill out. I want to make sure we're inclusive, and one of the ways we can be inclusive is adding additional options when we ask about gender. When I've had this...
Anonymous asked: i am kinda ashamed of this question, so i'm gonna ask as anon.
lately, i have had a really crushing desire to live stealth. but i feel like if i did this, i would be denying my past and forsaking those in the community who work so hard to bring awareness and equality. is there any way to reconcile the two??
lately, i have had a really crushing desire to live stealth. but i feel like if i did this, i would be denying my past and forsaking those in the community who work so hard to bring awareness and equality. is there any way to reconcile the two??
February 2011
54 posts
Question Answering Session tonight!
Hey guys- I’ve been swamped with my real job and moving but I’m settled and have set aside some time after work to answer a bunch of questions tonight. I’ll try and space out the posts so dashboard’s aren’t filled, but I wanted everyone to know that I am going to get to them! I’ve gotten some great Qs in the past couple of weeks and I’d hate to have you...
Are you in high school? Help out my boss and I by... →
Purpose of this Survey from Jennifer Bryan, Ph.D.
You have received a link to this survey because someone thought you might have valuable input for the book I am writing, From The Dress-Up Corner to the Senior Prom: Navigating Gender and Sexuality Diversity in PreK-12 School. (A Guide for Educators, Administrators, Teachers, Parents, School Counselors)
I hope you will share your observations,...
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Talking about a loved one who has transitioned
It has been my experience that coming out to people from my past as transgender is way simpler than my parents coming out as having a kid who transitioned.
For one thing, it is pretty easy to tell I have transitioned. I am presenting as male, I have a new name, all my “sex” and “gender” indicators on social networking websites are listed as male. So anyone from my...
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Anonymous asked: What are you thoughts on how fast to come out?
I ask this for two reasons - first of all, I noticed from your transition timeline that you seem to have gone fairly quickly from the "realization" period to the "coming out" period. I don't think this is a bad thing, but it seems like other transmen take a fairly long time in this period.
The...
I ask this for two reasons - first of all, I noticed from your transition timeline that you seem to have gone fairly quickly from the "realization" period to the "coming out" period. I don't think this is a bad thing, but it seems like other transmen take a fairly long time in this period.
The...
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Anonymous asked: hello, i come with a kind of odd question. i was going to ask fyftms this, but they don't allow anon questions, so...
anyway, i'm ftm, and i'm post-transition/stealth. i've only ever been with girls, but lately i've been wanting to experiment with another ftm. i am definitely attracted to guys, i've just never acted on it. i think that experimenting...
anyway, i'm ftm, and i'm post-transition/stealth. i've only ever been with girls, but lately i've been wanting to experiment with another ftm. i am definitely attracted to guys, i've just never acted on it. i think that experimenting...
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ourselvesbecomegods asked: I just want to thank you for having this blog. I'm an FtM and I've been following for some time and it's a wonderful resource, both informationally and emotionally. At this point, I'm unsure about whether or not I want to surgically/hormonally transition, but all of the links and anecdotes definitely help me with my little issues (like my height). It's difficult to find...
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lgbtadvocate asked: I am applying to college next year and need some advice on applying before any legal changes have been made. My parents are not very supportive of me and so I cant really get anything done before I go.
Do you know anything about this?
P.S <3 your blog.
Do you know anything about this?
P.S <3 your blog.
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Anonymous asked: I had no idea there was such a label as "MTM". That fits me pretty perfectly. Are there any resources/forums for MTM guys?
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Anonymous asked: have you ever considered living as stealth?
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Anonymous asked: One thing that is holding me back from T is that I'll never find a girlfriend who is femme... I hate to think that if I would just identify as a lesbian it would be easier to date women. How do I get over this superficial state of mind?
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inspector-pervert asked: is there anything besides testosterone or a hysterectomy that can stop periods?
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Anonymous asked: have you seen this?
http://izismile.com/2009/05/08/normal_guy_3_pics.html
apparently someone took his pictures off his myspace and transition journal and made that without asking him
http://izismile.com/2009/05/08/normal_guy_3_pics.html
apparently someone took his pictures off his myspace and transition journal and made that without asking him
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Anonymous asked: Hi Sebastian. I follow your blog and have found it very informative. I have a friend who started transitioning about a year ago, but recently it seems like he is trying to assert his male identity in a way that has become increasingly sexist. I don't want to offend him or suggest that his "masculinity" (his word) is invalid, but sometimes he makes statements that are pretty...
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Anonymous asked: Sebastian - your blog here has been such a helpful and fantastic resource throughout my gender journey this past year. I recall you mentioning a few times that when you started your own gender journey you sort of came from a place of first just realizing that you were not a woman and then had a period of time in which you identified as genderqueer before realizing your true identity as male....
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Anonymous asked: whats your thoughts on gender normative transfolk or trans people who see their transition as nothing more than just a piece of medical history/don't identify as trans?
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Anonymous asked: i found your blog from autostraddle and i was wondering i mean no offense to this. you look very androgynous to me and i cant tell have you had the full transition? sorry if this is not ok to ask but i dont know about these things and its hard to tell from your pictures you look andro
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Anonymous asked: today my friend told me that i should get a metoidoplasty because its better to be a guy with a smaller dick than guy with no dick at all. i was hurt by this and didnt know what to say so i didnt say anything. i think i should have said something tho but didnt know the words. please help give me advice on what i should say to something like this
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Anonymous asked: hi, i was wondering if you could post some info about soy? i want to eat less meat and i'm thinking about trying foods like tofu and tempeh, but i'm worried about the phytoestrogen present in them. i dont know if i'm ever going to take t but i definitely dont want any more estrogen in my body.
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Anonymous asked: You inspire me so much. Your blog is one of the only things helping me get through the confusion and loneliness of realizing that I'm transgender. Thank you so much. <3
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Anonymous asked: How bout some recent pics of yr handsome self?
Autostraddle — Trans Etiquette 101: No Offense,... →
My most recent column for Autostraddle addresses when it is appropriate to ask trans people trans-related questions and the best ways to go about it.
Original illustration for Autostraddle.com provided by and copyright Michelle Mishka Colombo 2011
An Interview with Antony Hegarty
lazz:
GROSS: I’d like to talk with you a little bit about gender. You describe yourself as transgender. What does that mean to you?
HEGARTY: Well, you know, it’s pretty simple. I don’t identify as a man. I identify as transgender, you know? I mean, it’s a pretty typical phenomenon. There’s probably transgender people in most families, somewhere around the line. Usually exhibits…
(Soundbite of...
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Here's a video I made about my changes at 10... →
It’s boring.
I'm working on an article (possibly for...
I don’t want to leave anything out - so I’m asking my lovely readers for some help:
Do you have any guidelines for non-trans people asking trans people trans-related questions?
Is it ever appropriate? Are some questions appropriate but some always off-limits? Are there phrasing issues
UPDATE: thanks guys. The piece is submitted. :)
Anonymous asked: I have noticed at my university that there are a large number of men who in a queer setting would certainly be "assumed trans" or get read as trans or whatever (I agree with you that the whole idea is ridiculous). But yes, many short/small/skinny guys who are 5'6" and under. Many don't have much facial hair. Many have feminine facial features. Lots of hipster-y boys, well...
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Anonymous asked: I think the notion of "mistaking" someone as trans or the idea that trans people look a certain way is silly at best, bordering on offensive or seriously problematic at worst
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environmint-deactivated20130216 asked: Just wondering, but what does "MTM" mean?
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Possibly problematic attractions to trans men
Amos Mac recently interviewed some non-trans guys who have been mistaken as trans men. (Read the interviews in full here.) There was one instance when one of these cis men was read as trans in a semi-sexual situation and the person who had mistaken him for trans was actually upset to learn that he wasn’t. I’m going to talk about that now and I’m going to throw a little warning...
ohhhjohnny asked: Hey, I just wanted to tell you that you look amazing in your pictures ;)
I started to read you blog when you got your first T-shot and your transition has been a great influence for me.
Thank you :)
I started to read you blog when you got your first T-shot and your transition has been a great influence for me.
Thank you :)
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Anonymous asked: hi sebastian! i was just wondering, have you ever heard of XX male syndrome? apparently there are some men who are born with two X chromosomes but are cis male physically. i thought that was kind of a cool thing to hear about, not to mention a clever response to the "you'll never be a real man because your DNA is female" argument.
thefullmeasure asked: You are my hero.
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Anonymous asked: (First of all, you and your blog are amazing and inspirational. Just saying.)
I'm sorry if this or something similar has already been asked or something. I can't remember if it was.
I'm going to try to start seeing a gender therapist next year, once I go to college. I've just gotten my mom on my side and kind of advocating for me and we were talking about...
I'm sorry if this or something similar has already been asked or something. I can't remember if it was.
I'm going to try to start seeing a gender therapist next year, once I go to college. I've just gotten my mom on my side and kind of advocating for me and we were talking about...
