I have three general suggestions.

First, focus on yr awesomeness. The “title” of this blog is “Your Y Chromosome Ain’t Got Nothin’ On Me.” That’s how I approached maleness and masculinity when I was first coming out, when the dysphoria was more raw and most persistent. Say, “Who cares that I’ll never have a Y chromosome? I am just as much who I am without it - Sebastian says so!” If you plan on medically transitioning or have, remind yrself that modern medicine means that a Y chromosome is no longer a requirement of even physical typical maleness! Or if this suits you, go the route of Hey it’s awesome that I have two X chromosomes. Kai, a transman blogger refers to himself as a “guy who was born different.” And he means different in a good way, and so if you see yourself as different, try celebrating that (Micah, my buddy and a rapper who is also FTM, has a great quote about that - http://xxboy.tumblr.com/post/7195589753/for-me-being-queer-is-being-outside-the-norm). If that doesn’t quite fit how you view yourself or your identity, then focus on the parts of your identity and your body and your life that you are proud of or the things that have started to change that feel really good.

Also, you can approach dysphoria like a deep plaguing sadness, and use tools of buddhism and cognitive behavioral therapy to not let it affect you / debilitate you. I wrote a little bit about that here: http://xxboy.tumblr.com/post/885431906/when-sadness-comes-just-sit-by-the-side-and-look

Finally, remember that where you are now is not where you will be next year or next month or even tomorrow. It has been my experience that once we are in the process of transitioning (even when it’s social and not medical), as long as we are making forward movement toward our goals, the transition gets easier every day, the dysphoria lessens. Remind yourself that you’re not stuck, you’re just maybe in the middle, on yr way to where you want to be and you will get there eventually.

It can’t always be eased, as you know.

Stay strong, make sure you’re seeing a good therapist as often as you need to, have a close friend (even an internet friend) or partner or you can call on when you’re low.

You’ll get through it. Many of us reach a point where we don’t get dysphoric anymore or if we do it is in a fraction of its original potency. you got this