Justin Vivian Bond Turns Androgyny Into High Art - New York Times By MICHAEL SCHULMAN
Published: June 20, 2012
“I WAS having lunch with Rufus Wainwright,” said Justin Vivian Bond, arriving home a few minutes behind schedule. “I’m going to be officiating at his wedding. I was just confirmed. I’m now officially a reverend!”
“Reverend” may be one of the few titles that Bond, the shape-shifting chanteuse of the downtown cabaret scene, is comfortable with. In an
online announcement last year, Bond adopted the prefix “Mx.” as a gender-neutral alternative to “Mr.” or “Ms.” And instead of “he” or “she,” the apropos pronoun would be “v.”
“I always thought of myself as a transgendered person,” said Bond, who is 49, lounging on a sofa in black capri pants and silver sandals. “I just lived my life and I didn’t really have the exact language for what I was.”
That act of semantic self-determination seems to have increased Bond’s creative output, too. The last year has seen a flurry of original recordings, lounge acts, exhibitions, music tours and a short memoir, “Tango,” about growing up in Maryland as a proto-glam “trans child” obsessed with Greta Garbo. Like Bond, the memoir is droll, pensive and filled with zingers teetering between funny and ferocious.
This spring, Bond starred in “Jukebox Jackie,” a play at La MaMa that paid tribute to the Warhol “superstar” Jackie Curtis; traveled to Vienna to sing at an AIDS charity ball; and is performing near Times Square to promote “Silver Wells,” the singer’s second album in two years.
While there are certainly other performers known for turning androgyny into high art, Bond has emerged as a kind of mother hen (make that gender-neutral parent fowl) to the city’s trans community, albeit with some reluctance.
“I find it frightening to think that other people are looking to me to speak for them,” Bond said. “What’s uniquely interesting about people who are transgender is this exploration of a truth that is not evident within the lexicon of society at large.”
That sense of searching wisdom underlies “Silver Wells,” a collection of melancholy covers. The title is a nod to the Joan Didion novel “Play It as It Lays.” Her image, along with Jean Genet’s, appears in shimmering dream-catchers in Bond’s living room, opposite a cartoonishly baroque vanity table, a gift from the children’s book author Ian Falconer.
Bond first read the novel at 15. “It was so stark and, in a way, depressing, but at the end she decides that nothing matters,” Bond said, referring to the book’s protagonist. “And there was something about living as this sort of undercover trans youth and reading that nothing mattered that I found to be very liberating.”
A similar winking nihilism was on display this month at 54 Below, a new cabaret space below the original Studio 54, where Bond is performing on Mondays through July 9. At the kickoff show, the performer, looking vampy in a borrowed Lanvin dress and blown-out strawberry-blond hair, paused between torch songs to reflect on growing older.
“I can’t believe Whitney Houston and I are the same age,” Bond purred. “Well, now I’m my age. She’s dead.”
The punky crowd laughed, and Bond, sensing a rambunctious mood, directed the accompanist to skip the next two ballads, both AIDS tributes. “Let’s just say we’re at Studio 54,” Bond said. “If you want an AIDS memory, take a deep breath.”
The joke was, in some sense, a callback to Kiki DuRane, Bond’s half of the twisted cabaret duo Kiki and Herb. Bond and the musician Kenny Mellman created the act in San Francisco in 1993, as a steely rejoinder to the plague that was decimating the city. They became an underground (and then above ground) sensation in New York, where they headlined Carnegie Hall and performed a Tony-nominated Broadway show.
But Bond grew tired of Kiki, a boozy millennia-old lounge singer, and shed the character in 2008, parting ways with Mr. Mellman. In an interview with New York magazine last year, Mr. Mellman said the two no longer speak. “When I was portraying Kiki, I had this character to hide behind,” Bond said, back at the apartment, a small East Village walk-up decorated like a fading Hollywood star’s boudoir. “Now I’m doing my own things, and it’s a little bit scarier.”
Bond’s living arrangement dictated the new album’s mise-en-scène. The performer’s old loft, above the grungy Mars Bar on Avenue A, was being demolished, sending Bond into temporary exile, not to mention the disorienting effect that came with beginning estrogen treatment.
“I started to really feel it around the same time that I was out of my house and on the road,” Bond said, ashing a cigarette into a garlic jar. “So my body was very adolescent, in a way, and I was living out of two suitcases.”
The songs (by the likes of Leonard Cohen, Ronee Blakley and Kurt Weill) have a theme of dislocation, and they acted as comfort food for Bond, who had also ended a five-year relationship with the singer Nathan (a k a Nath Ann) Carrera.
“I broke up with him on a Thursday and went into the studio to record this record on a Tuesday, so it had some bearing on it,” Bond said with a rueful laugh.
For now, the transitions (at least the obvious ones) are over. But at 54 Below, Bond was still navigating the uncharted. Introducing a doleful Kate Bush song, Bond said: “I don’t know what this song’s about, ladies and gentlemen. But I’ve attached my own meaning to it.”
[BTW, read my (and Annika’s) review of Tango at Autostraddle]
For almost two years I’ve been working for Jennifer Bryan as a research assistant / general assistant / consultant / tech aid /etc. A lot of our work has been focused on consultations with individual schools and presentations at larger education conferences. Another aspect of our work has been writing+ this book. I include the plus, because the book has so much more than just inspired and helpful text. It has resources, lesson plans, diagrams, glossaries, cartoons, news clippings. We finished the book at the end of 2011 and it was published last month by Rowman & Littlefied. People have already started contacting Jennifer to share that they are reading the book and trying to work her strategies and concepts into their schools and school districts. SO exciting.
I’m going to copy and paste a bunch of information on the book below and I hope that y’all will reblog what you think is relevant to your followers and readers or like it on facebook or tweet about it. It’s just such an amazing resource and I want to get the word out as far and wide as possible.
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LIKE THE FROM THE DRESS-UP CORNER TO THE SENIOR PROM: NAVIGATING GENDER AND SEXUALITY DIVERSITY ON FACEBOOK for information on the book, upcoming events and related current events / new resources: https://www.facebook.com/FromTheDressUpCornerToTheSeniorProm
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Available in Hardback, Paperback, E-Book, and Kindle Editions
Purchase links:
https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781607099789
http://www.amazon.com/From-Dress-Up-Corner-Senior-Prom/dp/1607099799/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1
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Description:
Very few PreK-12 teachers are adequately trained to address the gender identity and sexual identity of their students in a developmentally-appropriate and pedagogically-sound manner. Yet responsible adults—parents, educators, pre-service teachers, coaches, religious instructors, camp administrators and school counselors— must help children navigate the inherently diverse, increasingly complex world of gender and sexuality in the twenty-first century.
From the Dress-Up Corner to the Senior Prom is a practical, forward thinking resource for anyone involved in educating children and adolescents. Jennifer Bryan takes readers into classrooms, administrative meetings, recess, parent conferences, and the annual pep rally to witness the daily manifestations of Gender and Sexuality Diversity at school. She provides a coherent framework for understanding what readers “see,” and invites them to use a contemporary, heart/mind perspective as they consider the true developmental needs of all elementary, middle, and high school students. The book features thoughtful questions, models of dialogue, accessible lesson plans, and many pedagogical strategies. At the heart of this book, though, are the evocative stories from teachers, students, and parents that Bryan has listened to over the span of her career. These personal anecdotes bring the comprehensive explorations of this seminal work to life.
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About the Author:
Jennifer Bryan, PhD, author of the children’s book The Different Dragon, is a psychologist and educational consultant with over twenty-eight years of experience working with administrators, teachers, board members, parents, students, and school communities. She is a specialist in Gender and Sexuality Diversity and a consultant to PreK-12 schools throughout the United States. Bryan lives in Northampton, Massachusetts with her partner and two children.
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Reviews:
If you are interested in the role of gender and sexuality in schools, the only thing you need to know is: read this book! It is a long overdue resource that is rich with examples from PreK-12 classrooms across the country. The student and teacher voices framed by Dr. Bryan’s research and expertise combine to form a powerful tool that will help educators everywhere make their schools and classrooms more inclusive and freer of all forms of bias. This well-researched text is strengthened by pedagogically meaningful stories, lesson plans, and interventions that offer guidance and support to educators engaged in this work. Her valuable insights and ideas will certainly help reduce the harmful impacts of homophobia, transphobia, and heteronormativity in schools everywhere.
— Elizabeth Meyer Ph.D, author of Gender, Bullying and Harassment: Strategies To End Sexism and Homophobia in Schools and Gender and Sexual Div, Assistant Professor of Education at California Polytechnic State University
A brave, lucid, and insightful exploration of the intersections of gender, sexuality, and the experiences of K-12 students. Informed by scholarship and years of school experience, Jennifer Bryan has written a superb manual for faculty, administrators, and families on how to navigate safe passages for all students. Following Bryan’s advice not to run from these issues, but to embrace them conscientiously, will help educators and parents meet the challenges of raising healthy children in a nation where gender and sex have become tools of commerce.
— Arthur Lipkin Ed.D, Chair, MA Commission on GLBT Youth
From the Dress-Up Corner to the Senior Prom: Navigating Gender and Sexuality Diversity in Pre-K to 12 Schools, by Jennifer Bryan, is a must read book for any and all teachers and parents interested in getting their hands around gender stereotyping: what it is, how it’s limiting to all, and how to teach children to overcome it, towards the end of embracing gender and sexual diversity in the same way enlightened cultures embrace racial, ethnic, class, and religious diversity. The copious anecdotes alone are worth the price of admission to a future world where we transcend millennia of assumptions about “what boys do” vs. “what girls do” toward a more psychologically and socially androgynous and balanced future. Readers will find themselves thinking time and again, “It never occurred to me that our kids might be saying, and wondering, and exploring these things. How would I address that situation when it arises in my classroom?” This book of innumerable stories and wise counsel is also the new definitive authority reference book on terminology and resources on the topic. The central question Bryan addresses—what to teach about gender and sexual identity diversity in schools—is articulated perfectly by a fourth-grade teacher: “The school community needs a point of view on these issues. Then we all need to support this view.” Schools and teachers that don’t address the question collectively as a school community will address it, at their own risk, haphazardly and poorly individually.
— Patrick F. Bassett, president, National Association of Independent Schools (NAIS)
What we teach in our school curriculum helps shape the minds, attitudes, and identities of children. Conversely, what we omit or leave unexamined matters as well. In this carefully researched, courageous book, Jennifer Bryan cogently argues that despite the centrality of gender and sexuality to our core relationships and identity, schools rarely contend with these topics. Bryan is persuasive, forthright, and sensitive in challenging us to formulate a more inclusive and complex approach to addressing gender and sexuality diversity in school. As a teacher, I have often shied away from topics of gender and sexuality. I fear that I don’t know enough or that traversing these topics is too fraught and dangerous. Reading this book challenged me to re-think my tendency to sidestep these issues and provided me the conceptual vocabulary and practical strategies to be a better teacher for all my students.
— Sam Intrator Ph.D, Professor of Education and Child Study, Smith College
The issue of safety for GLBTQI students in our schools today is a matter of life and death, not a matter of politics. Jennifer Bryan’s book is essential reading for anyone directly or indirectly involved in the education of children today. As the Head of a pre-K through 8th grade independent school, I found valuable information contained in this book for faculty, parents, and trustees alike. Whatever your role is in the process of education, Jennifer Bryan’s book provides real life examples along with excellent solutions, making it a useful tool in the classroom and at home. Bryan does not shy away from the conflict, rather she encourages us to face the prejudices and inequities that exist with confidence, candor, and even humor. This book is a must read now!
— John Peterman, Head of School, Brookwood School, Manchester, MA
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
PREFACE
INTRODUCTION
CHAPTER ONE - Gender and Sexuality Diversity at School: What Educators Need to Know and Then Some
CHAPTER TWO - Heteronormativity at School: Questioning the “Natural Order” of Things
CHAPTER THREE - A Framework for Engaging GSD at School: Educational Mission; Best Pedagogical Practices
CHAPTER FOUR - GSD at School: Understanding What You See; Thinking Critically About What You See
CHAPTER FIVE - GSD Professional Development: “Learnings” that Lead to Best Practices
CHAPTER SIX - GSD in Early Childhood and Elementary Education: Strategies, Application and Curriculum
CHAPTER SEVEN - GSD in Middle and High School Education: Development, Safety, and Curriculum
CHAPTER EIGHT - Comprehensive Sexuality Education: Providing Foundations for GSD Literacy
CHAPTER NINE - Leadership, Policies and Programs: Supporting GSD Education at Schools (Not for Administrators Only!)
CHAPTER TEN - GLBTQI and Straight Educators and Parents: Different Challenges; Unique Opportunities
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Website:
http://jenniferbryanphd.com/navigating.html
JUST A REMINDER - THIS IS TONIGHT!!
xxboy:
Attention everyone ages 12-21 in the geographic areas surrounding Western Massachusetts:
The queer youth programs I work with are throwing our annual Kiss n Tell Ball in Northampton, MA! I’m super psyched about it and the youth have been (and will be) hard at work to make it THE place to be.
When: Friday March 23 2012, 7pm-10pm
Where: Northampton Center for the Arts (17 New South St, Noho, MA)
What: An awesome FREE event for LGBTQ+ youth and allies
- Sponsored by Generation Q and TREE (of Community Action Youth Programs)
- DJ Sebastian Barr (yours truly)
- Live Performance by Who’Da Funk It
- Hip-Hop Dance Performance by Crazefaze
- Special Drag Performance
- Catwalk event
- Photobooth station
- Confidential Rapid HIV Testing by Tapestry Health
- Substance-Free and Sober
- Gender Neutral Bathrooms
- Drag Dress-Up Station
- Even more!
Sound and Lighting for the event are being provided free-of-charge by AR Rproductions! Expect state-of-the-art club-level lighting and sound (we’re talking 4 subwoofers and professional lighting techs, people)!
Essentially, Generation Q and TREE, along with AR Productions, and the whole Community Action Youth Programs staff, are providing youth with a safe AND bigger/better alternative to other youth events that might not be so LGBTQIAA-friendly!
I can’t tell you how excited I am!
The location is across the street from the Academy of Music bus stop and many bus lines service it. Check out PVTA.com or Google Maps for more information on public transportation to and from the event!
RSVP on facebook! http://www.facebook.com/events/201336763299641/#!/events/201336763299641/

LGBT owned and operated, AR Productions LLC is a fully insured Audio, Visual and Lighting Design production company. AR Productions is a certified LGBT business by the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce.
Attention everyone ages 12-21 in the geographic areas surrounding Western Massachusetts:
The queer youth programs I work with are throwing our annual Kiss n Tell Ball in Northampton, MA! I’m super psyched about it and the youth have been (and will be) hard at work to make it THE place to be.
When: Friday March 23 2012, 7pm-10pm
Where: Northampton Center for the Arts (17 New South St, Noho, MA)
What: An awesome FREE event for LGBTQ+ youth and allies
- Sponsored by Generation Q and TREE (of Community Action Youth Programs)
- DJ Sebastian Barr (yours truly)
- Live Performance by Who’Da Funk It
- Hip-Hop Dance Performance by Crazefaze
- Special Drag Performance
- Catwalk event
- Photobooth station
- Confidential Rapid HIV Testing by Tapestry Health
- Substance-Free and Sober
- Gender Neutral Bathrooms
- Drag Dress-Up Station
- Even more!
Sound and Lighting for the event are being provided free-of-charge by AR Rproductions! Expect state-of-the-art club-level lighting and sound (we’re talking 4 subwoofers and professional lighting techs, people)!
Essentially, Generation Q and TREE, along with AR Productions, and the whole Community Action Youth Programs staff, are providing youth with a safe AND bigger/better alternative to other youth events that might not be so LGBTQIAA-friendly!
I can’t tell you how excited I am!
The location is across the street from the Academy of Music bus stop and many bus lines service it. Check out PVTA.com or Google Maps for more information on public transportation to and from the event!
RSVP on facebook! http://www.facebook.com/events/201336763299641/#!/events/201336763299641/

LGBT owned and operated, AR Productions LLC is a fully insured Audio, Visual and Lighting Design production company. AR Productions is a certified LGBT business by the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce.
Anonymous: Do you identify as queer? Why or why not?
Yes. For lots of reasons
- I don’t believe that my relationships with women have been purely heterosexual. Not because I am trans, but because I think of queer as being a state of mind that liberates us from gender roles and limitations of sexuality. And I’d like to think I’ve always gone into relationships with a queer mindset.
- I sometimes wonder if my appreciation of the male form goes beyond that of a typical non-queer man.
- I like the term queer because it leaves room for the fluidity of one’s sexuality and/or gender identity. If I identified as purely heterosexual, I’d consider that denying the possibility of me ever being attracted to a non-female-identified person.
- Also queer works better than heterosexual and homosexual because it leaves room for non-binary identities. It also leaves room for the fact that at one point I did identify as gay.
- In terms of gender, queer is a nice way for me to say that I still identify with parts of my past that are not solely male.
That said, in the past 6 years, I have only dated women. And am at the moment sexually exclusively attracted to women. So I’m a queer straight guy. (It’s also fun to claim the label straight because it still messes with some people’s ignorant conceptions of gender and sexuality.)
vegun replied to your post: Do you identify as queer? Why or why not?
in response to 1. : do you think that a straight, cis couple with the same mindset can identify as queer, or is that appropriation?
Yes, I do, and I believe I know some couples like that. I also know a lot of people will disagree with me on this, and there is some importance in queer as a political term that is not misappropriated. BUT I think queer is most powerful as a political term when it can be applied to LOTS of different kinds of people. Thanks for asking - it’s a really good question. I hope I explained my thoughts well in that brief response.